Any conversation you have with yourself, others, and the vast universe, will fall into two buckets: action or possibility.
When you have an action conversation you expect something to happen as a consequence. The sequence is pretty logical–from talking to listening to responding to doing–and you know when the goal (taking action) has been met. These conversations are all about tactics.
When you have a possibility conversation you don’t expect anything, mostly because you are not sure what can reasonably be expected. Thinking about an action to take almost gets in the way. In a possibility conversation you don’t waste anybody’s times on thinking about what can be; you’re too busy exploring what could be.
Having a possibility conversation goes like this:
- Instead of asking what’s available, you ask what’s wanted
- Instead of looking for something, you imagine everything
- Instead of repeating what has been done before because it worked, you wonder what could be done even better or anew
- Instead of listening to naysayers, you stay in your cheerleader bubble until you’re ready to come out
The big conversations, those around love, life, dreams, and change, need to start as possibility conversations. These topics are so big and hairy when you are young that it’s hard to know what’s available, and what works, so there’s no use in thinking about tactics yet.
A possibility conversation will eventually turn into an action conversation. That is what you want…eventually. But don’t rush the daydreaming, the pie-in-the-sky thinking. We all don’t spend enough time in that space where you get to wonder the what ifs. (We need that what if space as a spice to our daily A to B to C thinking) Once you’re itching to turn that possibility into something you can squeeze, then you’re ready to move on, but not before.
Dreaming and exploring are expressions of the soul. Don’t cut the conversation short.
P.S. Take out the Jeep stuff, and this commercial captures a possibility mindset pretty well: