7 Ways to Be A Man That Matters
“Who taught me how to be a man?
The list is long. My dad, of course. But also my mom, my high school History teacher, Atticus Finch, Teddy Roosevelt, the school director I worked for in Oakland, and so on.
Learning to be a man is a constant work-in-progress. Whenever you think you’re done learning, you’re just fooling yourself. Despite the fact that I don’t know who taught me to be a man and my own ongoing evolution, I know what a real man embodies. And (surprise!) it is very different from the mainstream definition we see in movies and magazine covers.”
7 Ways Books Can Change Your Life
“Often times, during a dark hour or an idle point, a book has changed my life. There are countless books that have pointed me in a different direction, or taught me a lesson. There are also many books that have helped me articulate my own emotions or thoughts, helped me find a voice. If it weren’t for the books I’ve read, I’d be a very different man today…I’d even argue I’d be less of a man.”
Why Gen Y Isn’t Happy and What They Can Do About It
“I’ll be the first to defend us, and with passion. We have a litany of strengths: we are tech savvy, purpose-driven, confident, and ready to learn up on almost any skill. However, we also have our quirks, the biggest of which is that we are terribly unhappy with how life turned out. We are unhappy with our jobs. We dislike how we spend our days. We are desperate for something more in life and in our careers. While we have many things to be proud of, we don’t pay attention to them, and instead focus on what we don’t have or what others are doing and that we are lacking.”
5 Life Lessons I Learned in My 20s
“Youth is the time of getting, middle age of improving, and old age of spending. — Anne Bradstreet
This does NOT mean I’ve actually learned them. I’m not there yet. If these lessons were Jello, I’d say I was in the post-mix stage, just as you are about to put the thickish syrup into the fridge so it can congeal. The life lessons are still milling about in my noggin’, bouncing around and slipping through whatever cortical spaces my brain allows them.
But they are sticking. Slowly, surely. The Jello is getting firmer by the minute (err, year), transforming the way I do things.”
9 Awesome Speaking Tricks You Haven’t Tried
“Speaking in public is a challenge. But it can definitely be overcome–and even become something you enjoy–by following some awesome speaking tricks that I will share with you today.
I have them listed by tricks for You and tricks for Them.
Speaking tricks for you are hacks that will help you become more confident, relaxed, and at ease when speaking.
Speaking tricks for them are hacks that will help make you a more effective and entertaining speaker.”
5 Ways Weight Lifting Can Make You Mindful
“I recommend weight lifting to everyone, regardless of their personal goals. And now I am recommending it to you. If you want a more mindful state of living, it is for you.
Here are five ways I’ve seen lifting bring me closer to zen-master level.”
11 Things You Need To Drop Now To Be Happy
“Happy is as happy does. Happiness is not something you are born with. Some people may always be jolly and skipping along, but it’s not automatic. In order to be happy, you have to be active in it.
But sometimes, it’s what you don’t do that gets you in a jolly state. We all carry cranky beliefs, mindsets, and habits. To enjoy more of what life has to offer (which, in case you didn’t know, is quite a lot!) you have to quit doing that harmful stuff.
Below are 11 things you need to drop today in order to be happy.”
How To Speak and Be Heard In Your Relationship
“Here’s the truth: Love is not about you. Love is all about the other person.
Love is thinking, What do they need or want from me?, not, What are my needs and wants? Love is being selfless, and being willing to become better for them. Love is being open–and thus, vulnerable–to doing things differently, because they need you to. Love is hard–and worth it.
Love is about them–love is about her. It starts there and ends there, and if you’re in a relationship that is fulfilling and strong, that is all you need. That’s enough to make it last for as long as you do.”
When I Knew I Wanted to Marry Her
“I’ve talked to most of my currently married friends about this. I ask them, When did you know? What has struck me is how different everybody’s moment or moments are. Some remember a feeling, others remember a conversation or an incident. Those wide range of moments do have something in common. They are when we recognized the difference between our life with her and our life without her. If the former is inspiring and the latter is unbearable, that’s when you know. Here’s to that moment.”
In Defense of the Momma’s Boy
“To be a momma’s boy does not mean you need to check in with your madrecita; it means you are afraid to disappoint her. To not disappoint the person that is your no. 1 fan…isn’t that a challenge worth having?”
Why I Will Always Love Paper Books
“Look at the relationship you have with your partner, or your habit of writing poetry. Can you tell me exactly why your love is there? Maybe you can, but maybe you can’t and are fumbling to find the list of reasons or the logic behind your pitter-patter. Does it matter if you can’t articulate or make sense of it? I certainly don’t think so. Your love is there, and that’s all that matters. Loving is not an argument that needs to be won, but a feeling that appears all of a sudden and you can’t ignore it. The best of loves don’t make a whole lot of sense. And that’s fine, because just like I love my family, my lady (and best friend), and the blessings in my life, I love paper books. As long as it makes some sort of sense to me, what else should I care about?”
Don’t Let Your Bullies Define Who You Are
“Every time I am mean to someone, or witness bully behavior, I remember when I was bullied as a kid. I remember how they took my power away, how they made me feel less-than. How they pushed me around like cattle. How they made me skittish like an alley dog. How they pointed out my differences as if I were a freak of nature. They got their power by taking away mine.”